Actually HAVING a life!

Teaching is a stressful profession to work in. There are never ending demands; lesson planning, grading, attending outside school activities to show you “are supportive,” attending conferences and training to maintain your certification and current on best practices, figuring out how to do more with less, incorporating new graduation requirements in to the curriculum, ensuring common tests across teachers in the district, and this is only a small sample of the responsibilities of a teacher today. What happens when you let your job rule your life? With today’s teaching environment it can be very detrimental to one’s mental health.
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This year I experienced what one might go through if their entire sense of self was wrapped up in what they experience in their teaching job. It was not easy to watch and there was no way to help. Unfortunately, the co-workers total life and identity was based on her professional teaching life. As things changed and she was asked to change or told she was not meeting standards…this sense of self diminished for her. She handled the stress with a lot of emotional issues at school; she even began missing critical days of work – which only exacerbated the issues of her view of her own self-worth.
So, how do we as teachers avoid this sort of downfall and not have our only identity be our school identity? I think the key is to actually have a life outside of school. Be involved in things that are not required for school or for school related items. Find things that you enjoy – knitting, video games, tennis, running, underwater basket weaving – something that is meaningful to you and develops friendships outside of the teaching arena. Teachers, even when gathered in social settings, can digress to the issues they face in school or related to school. This interest should be something that involves other adults, not just surfing the internet for find out decorating ideas. Involve other human beings so you can be completely removed from the stressors at school, so you can be an individual, not just a teacher.
So, having a hobby, something outside of the arena of teaching, something that involves other adults (in person), and something you can turn to that is completely unrelated to your work life is a key to developing and maintaining a healthy mental stated. One must make time for this type of outlet, even with all the stresses that we, as teachers, are faced with. Make time for yourself or your will lose who you are.
Kimberly Davis















Having a life
Great Blog Kimberly! I totally agree.... I always try to make time for myself and consider it part of my day just like any other part.
Jane Webby
Great post!
I really enjoyed reading your post Kimberly. I think this is something we can easily neglect in our lives. Teaching has the potential to take up so much of our time and energy that we forget about making time for ourselves. Your advice to include other people is very true. At my school the teachers go out for dinner or drinks every Friday after work. It is a very helpful was to reduce stress and end the week on a positive note.
Finally, I also liked how you added humor to your post with the underwater basket weaving ;)
Great post!
I really enjoyed reading your post Kimberly. I think this is something we can easily neglect in our lives. Teaching has the potential to take up so much of our time and energy that we forget about making time for ourselves. Your advice to include other people is very true. At my school the teachers go out for dinner or drinks every Friday after work. It is a very helpful was to reduce stress and end the week on a positive note.
Finally, I also liked how you added humor to your post with the underwater basket weaving ;)
Nicole Ruzycki
Great post!
I really enjoyed reading your post Kimberly. I think this is something we can easily neglect in our lives. Teaching has the potential to take up so much of our time and energy that we forget about making time for ourselves. Your advice to include other people is very true. At my school the teachers go out for dinner or drinks every Friday after work. It is a very helpful was to reduce stress and end the week on a positive note.
I also liked how you added humor to your post with the underwater basket weaving ;)
Nicole Ruzycki
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Nicole
Taking Time Out....
I agree with your recommendations. Without balance and an outlet, teachers are sure to get overwhelmed and experience “burn-out.” We should never be totally wrapped-up in or completely indulged in anything that causes our self-identity to dissipate. In my opinion, any career that negatively changes our “self-concept,” regarding how we see ourselves should be immediately examined.
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Teresa RoweI agree with
I agree with your recommendations. Without balance and an outlet, teachers are sure to get overwhelmed and experience “burn-out.” We should never be totally wrapped-up in or completely indulged in anything that causes our self-identity to dissipate. In my opinion, any career that negatively changes our “self-concept,” regarding how we see ourselves should be immediately examined.
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Teresa RoweWell Done
Kim -
We all really need outside interests that give us something other than vacations to look forward to. They can also be activities that we bring up in class so that our students see that we have "a life" outside of the classroom. I can't tell you how many looks I get from my students when I tell them I'm going to a concert.
Debora Brown Summer 2011
Time for Me
Nice Post Kim! I always thought that I had I had a busy life outside of school, but I realized about a year ago that none of the things that I was keeping busy with was really just for me. I recently started taking yoga and love that it is one thing, just for me, that no one else is depending on me to do. Lauren Kowalski
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"Make time for yourself or your will lose who you are."
Kim, your last sentence struck a particular chord with me. It's amazing how quickly and silently little pieces of ourselves can be chipped away. I am one who tends to throw my all behind what I am most involved in at the time and that thing tends to not only become my life, but CONSUME my life. It's also as though I don't really have a choice with regards to WHAT takes over my focus. Being more cognizant of the other components of my life and my personality is something I certainly need to do. Thanks for the advice! Kristin Syverson