Alright, I have an issue to place in your lap. It's the touchy subject of Christmas gift giving. Who gets a gift? who does not? what kind of gift would you give? blah blah. The situation...man and women are involved but are not in a realationship (no labels,we'll see how that goes) it's been about 6 months and just becoming more frequent and serious.She gets him the most perfect and appropriate gift, movies. He gets her no gift.

My issue is NOT the no gift. I actually didn't want a gift since I didn't know how to react to it. I was more worried about what the gift would mean and am relieved I didn't have to deal with that. He thinks I got him too much and truly loves the gift since they are his favorite movies on Bluray. Just to say, I really enjoyed the fact that he loves them and even enjoyed hunting for them.
 
The real true issue is...when people ask me what he got me and I say nothing they are shocked,stunned and appalled. My Christmas isn't about giving or recieving, it's about appreciating. I still have a great time with him. It really doesn't bother me, but now I feel like it's supposed to bother me.

My best friend who also happens to be male gave me a beautiful watch,which I adore. I showed him my wonderful watch just after I recieved it,because I was excited. But it was Dec 23, and at that time he said he hadn't gotten me anything, I could tell he was upset about my watch and how much I loved it.

Why is it expected to go out hunting for the perfect gift or atleast something? Why does society judge a persons charecter on it? or measure their love on it? I did not get him a gift just for him...but also for myself, to let him know I appreciate all he does for me.It's easier then words. A cop out.

How do I let people know I am not with this person for the things he can buy me? well "tech" speaking, I'm not even "with" this person, but I do care about him.

We spent an amazing Christmas together and became a lot closer, I consider that as my real gift.